People From Around The World Share Things That Made Them Say 'That Person Is Crazy'

People From Around The World Share Things That Made Them Say 'That Person Is Crazy'

Getting blindsided by other people's craziness can make you feel like you're the one who's crazy. The truth is, a lot of people are just plain nuts, but they're really good at hiding it--until they're not. It could be a friend, an ex, or a relative; chances are you know at least one person who's a card shy of a full deck. We asked people to tell us their bonkers tales of things that made them say, "That person is crazy!"

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35. The law of crazy attraction.

A co-worker of mine was in his basement apartment one night and after coming out of the bathroom, one of his ex-girlfriends was standing in the hallway just staring at him. He immediately told her to get out, as any person would. She followed it by pulling out a steak knife from her back pocket and swinging it around making some pretty crazy statements. He managed to get the knife away from her. AND THEN SHE PULLED OUT ANOTHER ONE. THIS GIRL HAD A PACK OF STEAK KNIVES IN HER POCKET.

She then proceeded to stab herself in the neck. I think that's when he realized she was pretty off.

Here's the kicker: she survived, and they're dating now.

That's when I realized my co-worker was crazy.

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34. Overreact much?

I went to a music fest with a girl I had been friends with for just a few months. She knew I had had seizures in the past. We get separated at some point and she has the medical staff of a major music festival looking for me AND she called my then-girlfriend (now wife) and made her drive to said music fest to find me because she thought I was seizing.

I was at the rendezvous point. That she picked.

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33. That's not why they're not calling you back.

I had an extremely clingy friend that texted and tried to call me fifty million times a day. Well I was having a really bad day and I wasn't in the mood to converse with her at all and just ignored her. She called the police and told them she thought I had committed suicide. That was fun.


32. It's hard to keep track.

So, I was friends with this girl in high school who was a grade above me and I thought she was so cool. She had these amazing stories of things that happened in her life. After a few years, I started to wonder if she was lying. There were little things I'd catch her in. I started to think she might be a compulsive liar, and then one day I knew when we had a conversation in the mall parking lot. We parked, got out, and began walking to the building. Here's the conversation that followed.

Me: I like your outfit! Where'd you get those shoes?

Her: They're my roommate's. We had a party at our house and someone stole all my shoes.

Me: Oh. That's terrible, I'm sorry.

Her: Haha yeah. Where'd you get your outfit?

Me: Some store.

Her: I love that store! I got my shirt there and these shoes are my roommates. We took all my shoes to a bar when we were out drinking and gave them away.

Me: O...Kay...

Then we keep walking and as we get to the door:

Her: Let's go into Wet Seal first. That's where I bought these boots.

This whole conversation happened as we walked TO the mall and her story changed three times. And she definitely was not joking with me.



31. That's just bad parenting.

My ex-wife sent a text message to me threatening to kill my son (and hers) while he was with her. I now have full custody.

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30. Putting the "evil" in evil stepmother.

My friend's stepmom attempted to suffocate him with a pillow in his sleep. He was 17 at the time and a linebacker on the football team. He literally woke up and threw her out his second story window. She is still in prison for attempted murder, and in a wheel chair for life.

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29. It is bad for you.

My ex actually called the cops on me because she thought I was trying to “poison” her. Why? Because I bought salted butter instead of unsalted.

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28. Marvin the classy Martian.

A man came in to the bar I work at, he's a semi-regular and is quite energetic but harmless. Everything was as normal, he drank his small Sauvignon Blanc and left.

This is where it gets weird. He came back in a couple of hours later and I asked him if he'd like the same wine he had last time. He stared at me, dead-eyed and completely silent for maybe 30 seconds, before laughing. He went on to tell me that I must be confusing him for his twin brother, and that infact his brother was from earth but he is from another planet, and there couldn't possibly be anything suitable for him to drink in our bar because his digestive system is completely different from ours.

This went on for a while, he eventually left and came back in an hour or so later, had a glass of wine, and left again.

He's perfectly nice and respectful so isn't a problem and there's a whole community of people looking out for him, but he's definitely crazy.

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27. Crazy about Fall.

My brother started dating this girl and I thought she was a little clingy and insecure, but I chalked it up to being a little nervous around her new boyfriend's family.

However, she had been with my brother for less than 6 months when I got engaged. In a conversation about wedding dates, I said I wanted to get married in October. She immediately got upset and started crying to my brother. She didn't want me to steal her "dream wedding date" and she told me that the entire month of October was off limits. She expected my brother to propose to her and they'd get married that year. Yep. She cray.

Luckily my brother eventually realized she was a little unhinged and dumped her. And I had my wedding in October. Take that!

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26. Now that's a scary Halloween trick.

I was at a Halloween party several years ago with a secondary/tertiary friend group. You know the kind. I was kinda friends with some of them, only barely knew others. But it was a costume party and I didn’t have anywhere else to be, so I went.

There was a guy who was near to the center of said group that was always a bit weird. Everyone called him Prison Bob because he had been to prison. I had run into him a few years before when I was maybe 14 and he offered me $20 to show him my breasts. He was at least 20 at that time. Real class act.

Well during the party he pulls out a LOADED GUN and starts waving it around saying he could end it all right there. Two guys manage to get it from him. Now he’s running around the house yelling. A third guy steps in and decides to break down the gun. So like one guy has all the bullets and one guy gets the actual gun. Someone else took the clip.

NO ONE ELSE reacted. They were just like “Typical Prison Bob behavior”.

So that’s the day I decided that entire circle was crazy.

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25. You think?

My flatmate's ex had a few too many and got mad at him for reasons unknown. She vomited into a bucket, then stared him in the eye and tipped it all over our lounge floor. Then she tried to throw pizza she chewed up and spat into her hand, missed him and hit someone else. Then put her hand through our window (as in she literally broke the window by shoving her arm through it) and smeared the blood all over the walls and floor, all the while calling him names. This was all in the space of about an hour, at 11am. The relationship didn’t last long after that (she continued to blackmail him after they broke up.). Definitely had some issues I think.

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24. Even the dead aren't safe from crazy.

I was on a date with this guy, he acted rude towards the waiter, the entire restaurant, and me. The thing that made me decide that he was crazy was when he brought up the fact that he enjoyed staring at dead bodies because it aroused him. What's even worse is that he worked at a morgue. Last time i heard of him was because he was put in a psych ward, don't know if he was caught doing something to a corpse or he realized he needed help.

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23. Put a bird on it.

I was eating at my local Subway sandwiches, and a woman comes to the counter. Pulls a dead bird from her coat and asks what type of sub she can get for the bird. Everybody turns and watches as the teenager behind the counter realizes whats going on. He starts yelling that she needs to leave because a dead bird is an obvious health thing. She gets mad that he's not even willing to hear her out, and storms off mumbling and swearing under her breath.

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22. Mommy dearest.

My brother's ex wife once went completely crazy, screaming and yelling, threatening to set her hair on fire and cut herself because her own newborn baby was getting more attention than her.

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21. Uncovered cruelty.

One of my co-workers, a middle aged woman whom we'll call Karen. Definitely not my favorite person to talk to and/or work with as our personalities and (political) views always seem to be complete opposites of each other. Karen makes these completely irrelevant, irrational and extreme statements out of the blue all the time, often notably just to disagree with me or one of the many other people that she can't get along with.

Another co-worker's cat died some time ago, and after autopsy it appeared that the cat ate a poisoned sponge. You'll often hear about cat or dog haters that poison snacks and scatter them around here in the Netherlands. That co-worker obviously had a hard time coping with the death of his cat and while we were talking about it with a group of co-workers, Karen barges in and says that she can completely understand why people poison cats or dogs, because she can't stand the fact that cats come in her backyard and poop there. She even stated that she'd do it too. Yup, ever since then I know she's crazy.

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20. Royally nutso.

I had a flatmate briefly who had a tattoo which she said she had to get after she lost a bet with a guy. He bet her that he could win 7 gold medals at the Olympics. Turned out he was Michael Phelps and he won 8, so she went and got the tattoo.

She was also "friends" with the British royal family, having worked as personal security to William and Harry as children. She'd send them Christmas cards and tell us stories of her conversations with the Queen. She kept saying that Harry had promised to visit us, but she told him not to because the British secret agents would have to secure the entire street, and that would be too much bother for our neighbors in our little suburb in New Zealand.



19. The ghost of Christmas breakups.

Months after going on a single date with a woman, she calls me on Christmas eve while I'm at work to introduce me to her family over the phone as her boyfriend. The one date we had was dinner at a restaurant (she didn't order anything just kept eating my fries) and then watching TV back at her place. Nothing physical happened and the date ended with a handshake. When I responded that we were not a couple, she started freaking out and crying about how horrible I was for breaking up with her on Christmas eve.


18. It didn't even rhyme.

I worked at a gas station when I was in high school. Every day around the same time for a couple months this really cute guy would come in for the restroom and head out. Eventually, I started being friendlier and he’d stop for a second to chat and eventually he’d ask if I’d like to hear a poem. I’d gush about how great it was and he’d go about his way. This guy was gorgeous so that clouded my judgement. His poems made no sense and got weirder as time went on. My coworker urged me to stop being so friendly as he gave her the creeps. I, being 15 and boy crazy, ignored this. This went on for months until one day he ran in with his hair in pigtails and cat-type whiskers drawn on his face and locked himself in the bathroom for over an hour. I knocked on the door several times and heard him talking as if on the phone (this was pre-cellphones). Finally he busts out clutching a half dissolved urinal cake up to his ear and says, “Someone left me a clue. I finally found it! Farewell!” He ran away down the street and we never saw him again. Yeah, so not an eccentric poet.


17. Medical professionals aren't immune.

We had a float nurse who would occasionally appear on our unit. Great nurse, patients love him. Completely insane. We knew to always be busy when he's getting ready to go. He will start talking about insane conspiracy theories that he documents on Twitter. I decided he was definitely crazy when I received a very long lecture about how there were secret ties between Big Hero Six, some Brad Pitt war movie, and the number 3. Because the meaning of everything is love. Also, he receives secret messages from the radio DJ. I'm pretty sure his wife leaving him triggered some kind of psychotic break. Or she left because he was crazy.

When another nurse got engaged he looked at the ring and told her, "The bigger the diamond, the colder the heart."

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16. Ah yes, the ghost baby.

I knew my neighbor was off when she insisted that my husband and I flew to the US to have a baby. Every day when my husband would come home from work she would stop him and tell him that she heard me in the apartment with the baby all day, and would ask how our daughter was.

We have no children, and I have never even been pregnant before. He would always correct her, but she was adamant that we had a baby girl, and that she heard me with her all the time. I already tried to stay away from this neighbor as much as possible, but now it was an "avoid at all costs" thing.

Also, why would we go to the US of all places to have a baby? I don't need thousands of dollars in medical debt.


15. Criminally insane.

One of my former coworkers was totally bonkers. She was nice enough but didn't progress beyond a grade school education. She was married to a man 20 years her senior, they lived in a trailer straight out of Deliverance. Anyway, she kept coming in every 6-7 months trying to give away the kittens her cats kept producing. After a couple rounds of this, we asked her why she didn't get her cats fixed. According to her: "Oh we did that, but his balls grew back." The saddest part was, any kittens she couldn't find homes for her husband ended up drowning. He was one of those 'it's just a dumb animal' types. God, they made me mad.

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14. I'm calling my lawyer.

I was a personal assistant for a woman who was extremely “lawyer happy”, meaning, she always was looking for ways to sue people. I accompanied her while she picked her child up from daycare one day. She parked in a no parking zone that most parents use as a car line to pick up their older kids, and a dad of another child came over and calmly asked her to please move her car so that the car line could keep moving. He was completely cool about it. My boss ranted all the way home about how the man made her feel unsafe and threatened and that she’d be contacting her lawyer so she could sue him for emotional distress. No clue how she went about that since I quit shortly after.

And yes, she threatened to sue me when I quit.

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13. It's good to recycle.

One of my housemates at university I'm pretty sure was (probably still is) a compulsive liar. Anyway, once we went to the pub with a few guys from my course, everyone is yammering and he starts telling a story about this weird dude he met at a party who found a spider and let it crawl into his mouth.

This was curious for 2 reasons. First, I was the one who told him this story about 6 months prior when asked one of those icebreaker questions at orientation. Second, I had actually stolen the story from my girlfriend at the time, because I panicked and couldn't think of anything to say. So he had regurgitated a regurgitated story.

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12. Going the extra mile for attention.

I was sorta friends with this girl I worked with. She loved that people confused us and would try to copy or one up me all the time. We started our jobs in the same department on the same day so we trained together. I was engaged and the wedding was within a month of our start date. She eventually convinced her mentally crazy boyfriend (I met him, he definitely had major issues due to his twin dying in a car crash) to get married just so she could talk about the planning and the stuff people asked me about. After I left that position to a better one she quickly got pregnant, gave birth, then had a divorce. She just wanted to be the one in the office that everyone talked about. She definitely was when she was fired for incompetence.


11. We've all got that one crazy friend.

I had an extremely clingy and mentally unstable friend who would invade my privacy and spend every second of her free time with me talking to me about boys. Having only $3 in her account whilst paying for a $12K boob job and believing guys in particular white guys were superior were already massive red flags. I finally came to the realisation of how crazy she was whilst at a hotel party she was not happy about as it was held on a Friday instead of a Saturday. As retaliation to my friend who organised the hotel and party, she poured all 4 bottles of alcohol down the toilet and ate every hotel snack to rack up unnecessary hotel charges which my friend was obliged to pay for.

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10. Feeling impaired.

At the end of my senior year of college one of my roommates was staying in our 6-person apartment for the weekend which was unusual for her. The rest of us were watching a movie and chatting in the living room at 8:30 on a Saturday night and she came out and screamed at us about her need for beauty rest.

Not only that, she started insulting everyone. One of my roommates has hearing aides. I’ve stood a foot behind her and shouted her name to no response and the crazy roommate literally yelled at her, “I know those are fake and you can hear me.”

We were all just so thankful that she moved out before graduation and we didn’t have to deal with her anymore.

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9. Pathologically pregnant.

I had a friend who lied constantly. When we were 15 she tried to convince me that she had a secret baby that died when it fell off the couch. Even though I saw her every day at school, and she clearly wasn’t pregnant, she would constantly lie about being pregnant for attention. I remember we were in Kmart with her latest boyfriend. She decided to say she needed to take a pregnancy test and bought one. She made her dude friend sit outside while I went with her into the bathroom. She took the test and said it was positive. I saw it. It was negative. She then told the guy that she was pregnant. Turns out he has a girlfriend. The next day she said she lost it.

She’s outgrown this behavior luckily. She’s engaged and actually pregnant. All this was years ago. However we aren’t really friends anymore.


8. A night with Narcissus.

I went to a house party one NYE when I was young. There was a chick there I’d met before and she seemed really cool. Everyone was having fun, but she decides she wants to go out to a club. She basically throws a tantrum until we all just give in and decide to drive her to this stupid club. She calms down in the car, until we get about halfway there and she just goes berserk saying she doesn’t want to go to a club, why couldn’t we have stayed home? Why does she have to do what everyone else wants? Why are we forcing her to go out when she doesn’t want to?

We turned around and went back home. Once there she tried to slash the tyres of the car, tried to run me and my friend over with her car, and ended up crying in the foetal position in the gutter because no one takes her seriously.

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7. Don't drag the movement into this.

I dated a girl in college off and on. We lost touch and then we started messaging each other again about two years later. She used to crack mean jokes and then blame it on her depression, I would just write off this weird behavior all the time.

After a year of this, I called one day and she didn't respond. I tried calling about 5-6 times over the next few months. Finally I texted her, and she responded by saying "Why would you message a stranger, I'll file a police complaint. #MeToo." When I tried to explain that I'm me, she called me a creep.

I blocked her. And when I finally asked a mutual acquaintance about it, he said that she was "pulling a prank." But she hasn't called or apologised since. Very weird. I just decided never to call back.

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6. A real descent into madness.

I knew a man in India who started digging bits of silver foil out of the tarmac at the side of the road. He'd been perfectly sane a few days earlier and I got to watch his descent, not really realising what I was viewing until that point. This was in India, and he was Indian but hung out mostly with Westerners, and so we would often talk about spiritual matters. I noticed that these spiritual conversations would get more and more esoteric until I couldn't really get what he was talking about, but it still didn't twig.

The day before I found him digging up silver foil, I met him on the way home from a bar. He was definitely weird then, properly creepy, and that was when I first realised he had gone mad. He started an esoteric conversation with me again, none of which made sense. It was just the two of us talking beneath a tree on a dark road with nobody else around. He handed my an invisible telephone and told me my mother wanted to talk to me so I played along. Then his eyes went wide and he shook his head, placed one hand on each side of my face and said "No. You never talk to your mother ever again."

I was frightened and went home.

A couple of days later he disappeared, as he was taken away to the mental hospital, and he only turned up again a few weeks later, his head shaved. This happened every now and again, apparently.

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5. She shook him all night long.

This girl I was chatting to online kept trying to get me to videochat. Eventually, I agreed, and it was the weirdest videochat I’ve ever had. She didn’t say a word the entire chat. She switched off the light and I heard the sound of her bedroom door opening and closing, then she came back. And she made a show of shaking up her bottle of protein shake. Eventually, I ended the chat wondering what had happened - maybe she was getting me to Cyber. I contemplated blocking her, but fool that I am, I just carried on talking to her and gave her the benefit of the doubt. I’d never had a girlfriend before, I should probably mention, so I imagine this was a reason I wrote it off.

One day, she randomly took offence at an admittedly clumsy attempt at being supportive to some of her medical issues, and blocks me. I think well, problem solved, she’s decided to leave on her own. Nope. Month or two later, she pops up and says sorry for overreacting, and how she’s forgiving me for being so insensitive. By this point, my better judgement is practically screaming at me. Once again, I ignore it, and the chat continues as before. Then she wants to videochat again. I once again agree.

It went pretty much the exact same way as last time. No words from her, weird actions. Then it ended.

I blocked her as soon as she’d gone offline. I wasn’t ignoring that red flag again!

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4. Straight out of a Hitchcock film.

I’m a nurse so dealing with nuts is a daily occurrence for me. Especially when you’re working in ED and dealing with people who have just walked through the door and you’re trying to ascertain whether they’re orientated or not. I had too many to list, but one was an elderly mother and her middle aged son...

They seemed completely normal (they often do at first). The mother was getting admitted and the son was getting ready to go home. He pulled me aside and told me his mother likes to spit in a jar on Friday evenings after she watches the news, and if it would be ok for her to do that while in hospital. Kinda weird but whatever, she’s not hurting anyone. So I said I don’t see why not. I’ll get her a paper cup or something and she can spit in that tonight after the news (it was a friday). “Oh no”, he said, “into THIS jar”. He then presented this gross old jar (looked like and old Pickle jar) about a quarter full of spit. Wrong on so many levels. Let’s just say, I got a real Norman Bates vibe from those two.

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3. Master manipulator.

I had a coworker that regularly talked about how so many of her friends have screwed her over in the past. At first I believed her and felt bad, until she told us what her latest "ex-friend" did (after basically calling him every name in the book, of course).

She and her husband decided one day to replace their furniture. This was a spur of the moment decision, and since they didn't have a truck to move their stuff, they texted their friend to see if said friend could help them (along with friend's truck). Friend said no, can't do I'm busy today. So my coworker showed up at his house and flipped out when she saw that he was home relaxing, that's how entitled she thought she was to his vehicle and his time. She screamed about every single thing she had ever done for him, petty stuff like buying him a soda when he forgot his wallet. Cops had to be called.

From then on out I was careful not to accept any favors from her because I'm 98% sure the only reason she would ever do a nice thing is to throw it back in your face when you have to tell her no. Like she used to give one of our coworkers a ride home, and I witnessed this coworker on multiple occasions offer gas money, pay for her lunch, etc as a thank you. She always declined with "I'm going that way anyway :)", until one day coworker ticked her off so she ran around telling everyone that coworker was a mooch and never once paid gas money.

She was some kind of crazy.

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2. Creepy seduction strategy.

I made friends with a guy who was on the fringe of our college friend group. He seemed bright and we shared interests. He was a junior chess champion and I always wanted to learn, so he was teaching me. We chatted online sometimes. His parents were divorced and his father lived in Europe somewhere, and he flew over for a few weeks.

I'm hanging out, cleaning out a closet at my house when he messages me. He tells me a few years back he was dating a girl and she was crazy and abusive. He'd gotten out and broken all contact, blocked her and changed all of his screen names. But she'd found him and messaged him and he was upset, would I talk to him? I said of course and ended up chatting with him for a few hours.

A few weeks later he'd been back and we'd hung out some and he expressed interest in me romantically. I told him I was seeing someone else at the time (I actually was). Guy continued to be clingy and weird. It got to a point where I wasn't sure if i was starting to dislike him because he was annoying or if he was annoying because I disliked him. He kept acting like we were dating despite my other committed relstionship that predated our friendship. I took a step back from the friendship.

He messaged me telling me he'd reconnected with a girl he'd worked on a group project with while walking around campus, and she'd given him her number again. They planned to get coffee. I was delighted and encouraged him to pursue it because then he'd leave me alone. After the date he checked in with me, I assumed since I'd been enthusiastic and he had no other close friends. They got coffee, talked for hours, and had a good time. Good! I told him how happy I was for him. He said "You're not upset?" Gosh, why would I be? "You're not jealous?" No, of course not, I'm happy for my friend. "You were supposed to be jealous." Uh.... okay buddy. "I made the whole thing up to make you jealous." Well that's a little extreme. Then he messaged me this:

"That thing with my ex never happened by the way. I made it up because I was mad at my Dad, stuck in Sweden and wanted to talk to someone. People don't listen if you tap them on the shoulder anymore, you have to wheel them around and punch them in the face."

If you don't metaphorically punch people in the face they don't talk to you? Man, that was a thing he said. Why would he admit to being a compulsive liar? I think he wanted me to be impressed by that? I blocked him on all media and discontinued that friendship. It was wild.

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1. RSVP, or else.

My husband's cousin is the only female in the family that is around my age so when we used to go to family functions I tended to hang out with her. Our friendship blossomed and she was who I considered to be my best friend. We both had three kids and they all loved each other so we just spent a lot of time together.

My husband always told me she was crazy and that she would turn on me. But I just thought they grew up together and had some weird sibling rivalry kind of thing going on.

Her ex husband hated her. Court cases for custody were happening all the time, it was nasty, they weren't allowed to be in the same room together per court order even. I only heard her side of the story so I, of course, just assumed it was him that was horrible.

Fast forward a few years, she is remarried and has a new baby with her new husband. She's an interior decorator and has always been struggling financially. But somehow all of a sudden she is buying all the things. New iPods for all the kids (including mine), gaming laptop for her oldest, furniture, electronics, she pays a year of rent up front so she "won't have to think about it."

While I'm over there (because I'm now an "approved supervisor" for the supervised visitation her ex husband has imposed through the court), she starts screaming at her new husband for not loading the dishwasher correctly and pushes him fully, with real force, down the stairs. He somehow manages to be okay but she doesn't stop. Runs after him with clear plans to attack. The guy has to literally flee his own home. I packed up the three older kids and my kids and got out of there. I didn't report it because she guilted me into thinking she had postpartum depression and would be fine.

One Valentine's day she decides she wants to have a party for the kids. The time didn't work out for me so I told her we couldn't attend. She lost it and called me every name she could think of. She took things I had said to her in confidence and told our whole family. I got pages and pages of scathing emails. I was crushed.